Can People Who Live Simply Have Nice Things?
It’s important to save for retirement. It’s sensible to have an emergency fund. It’s essential to live within your income and not go into debt. But where did the idea come from that people who are frugal and live simply can’t have nice things? Or that they should feel guilty if they buy something new?
It amazes me that many people equate frugality and financial savvy with denial and a spartan lifestyle. I think they’re missing the point. There is a big difference between being frugal and being a miser. It’s important to be responsible about money, but frugality is not about how much you can do without or how little money you can spend. True frugality is not wasting money on things that aren’t important to you so you have the money to use for things that ARE important to you. What these things will be is different for each person.
Being obsessed with NOT spending money is just as bad as being obsessed with spending it, because in both cases the emphasis is on money and stuff. You should plan for the future, but you also should live in… and enjoy… the present. And sometimes that means buying something that makes life easier… or something fun… or even something just because you want it. It’s true that stuff doesn’t make you happy, but it’s also true that lack of stuff doesn’t make you happy either… happiness must come from within. There should be no guilt in wanting or buying something new on occasion. A thoughtful, sensible use of your money sometimes includes spending it.
Written by Shirley | Filed Under Frugality, Personal Development, Simple Living, Voluntary Simplicity






Comments
Comment by Mimi:
Thank you for this post and for your blog. Your articles have been an immense help to my husband and I and you have helped us understand that frugality and simple living is not the do-without depressing life we had thought it was. We are new at this and we are being cautious in the life style changes we are making but we keep rereading your articles and you have no idea how much help you have given us. Thank-you thank-you thank-you!
Comment by Gene:
I have been wanting someone to say this. Thank you for this wonderful blog.
Comment by Bert:
I have a couple of friends who pride themselves on their frugality, and any time I buy something I find myself hiding it from them because they are always so disapproving. I’m very sensible with my money, I don’t spend it on foolish things, but sometimes I like to splash out on a new purchase — and I can afford to do this. I have savings and emergency funds and have money socked away for my retirement, but I also spend a little money now and again. So kudos for this post, it needed to be said.
Comment by Willow:
I agree with you! Joe Dominguez wrote in his book Your Money or Your Life about how one’s attitude toward money shouldn’t be one of obsession either for it or against it. Money is simply a tool. Loved this post!
Comment by Camille:
Shirley, you said: It’s true that stuff doesn’t make you happy, but it’s also true that lack of stuff doesn’t make you happy either… happiness must come from within.
You are so right – I’ve also noticed that the older I get (I’m pushing 53, though feel more like 35 most days), the less stuff I need in my life. I used to be a clothes fanatic, thinking that having a “perfect” wardrobe would make me feel good inside (how superficial that sounds now). I’ve found that with age comes happiness, something I would never have thought to be true when I was young. I think age makes you realize that you can just be yourself, and it’s ok!
Comment by trish:
I was thinking about that this past weekend. I took my son and his friends to the mall to a movie and after seeing a movie myself, I walked around the mall a bit and found I had no desire to buy ANYTHING. In the past, I would have shopped and bought something, thinking I was doing something nice for myself. After about 30 minutes, I sat on a bench, had a coffee and waited for them to finish. That’s when I realized the difference: I wasn’t denying myself anything, I just didn’t feel the need to spend money as some sort of “reward” just because I was at the mall.
Comment by Willow:
I’ve come back to add something I’ve been thinking about–people who live simple lives tend to have fewer BUT NICER things because they choose carefully what they want to own.
Comment by Jill:
Very encouraging post. I’ve wrestled with this issue a bit myself lately as I have started working on my bathroom. What started as the need to replace the shower has morphed into a complete redecorating project. At first I was a bit ashamed of myself for allowing it to go beyond the bare necessities. But I read this post, did some thinking on my own and came to the conclusion that a complete change in decor was OK since it’s been almost 9 years since anything has been done to that room and I am not taking on any additional debt to finance the changes I want to make. Plus, I am doing much of the work myself, so when I finally get it all done I’ll have the satisfaction and happiness that often comes with a DYI project.
Comment by Random Thoughts of a Jersey Mom:
I’ve just found your blog and find you very sensible. Many have an entirely too extreme view on what frugality is. We don’t buy “a lot” of things but what we have are good quality & durable goods.
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