Comments on: How To Stop Procrastinating http://www.choosingvoluntarysimplicity.com/how-to-stop-procrastinating/ About finding balance in your life, connecting with who you are, and creating a lifestyle where you wake up each morning eagerly anticipating the day ahead. Tue, 07 Feb 2012 15:29:49 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Marta http://www.choosingvoluntarysimplicity.com/how-to-stop-procrastinating/#comment-56196 Marta http://www.choosingvoluntarysimplicity.com/stop-procrastinating-personal-development/#comment-56196 Thanks so much for this! Right now I'm procrastinating clearing my room so my stepdad can get to the attic to work on the skylights. All the stuff that was in my closet in now out in my room because the attic access is in the closet ceiling. It's making my room easier to clutter. I'm also staying in a job that I hate, and am having trouble turning in my notice, even though it's not even paying enough for it to be worth my time in driving over there, I don't like the people I work with, and have another, much better paying, great job that I love already. I've given myself until July to sort it out, because then I'll have been there a year, and I only have to wait a month. Thanks so much for this! Right now I’m procrastinating clearing my room so my stepdad can get to the attic to work on the skylights. All the stuff that was in my closet in now out in my room because the attic access is in the closet ceiling. It’s making my room easier to clutter. I’m also staying in a job that I hate, and am having trouble turning in my notice, even though it’s not even paying enough for it to be worth my time in driving over there, I don’t like the people I work with, and have another, much better paying, great job that I love already. I’ve given myself until July to sort it out, because then I’ll have been there a year, and I only have to wait a month.

]]> By: Alan http://www.choosingvoluntarysimplicity.com/how-to-stop-procrastinating/#comment-44007 Alan http://www.choosingvoluntarysimplicity.com/stop-procrastinating-personal-development/#comment-44007 I found that my procrastination came from fear of doing something wrong, which came from fear of conflict, which came from childhood experiences of emotional sensitivity and vulnerability with low self-esteem which came from too few "strokes" from my parents, physically and verbally. I was able to alleviate this by doing The Work (Byron Katie) [costs nothing] on the underlying beliefs and deliberately projecting my younger selves and reassuring them. The churning fear in my sternum(? bottom of ribs) faded away. Now I open letters, make complaints, draw lines, pay bills, tell people off if it feels right, get few reminder letters, do my taxes as soon as possible, ask for what I want, and post my opinions. I found that my procrastination came from fear of doing something wrong, which came from fear of conflict, which came from childhood experiences of emotional sensitivity and vulnerability with low self-esteem which came from too few “strokes” from my parents, physically and verbally. I was able to alleviate this by doing The Work (Byron Katie) [costs nothing] on the underlying beliefs and deliberately projecting my younger selves and reassuring them. The churning fear in my sternum(? bottom of ribs) faded away. Now I open letters, make complaints, draw lines, pay bills, tell people off if it feels right, get few reminder letters, do my taxes as soon as possible, ask for what I want, and post my opinions.

]]> By: MHH http://www.choosingvoluntarysimplicity.com/how-to-stop-procrastinating/#comment-37523 MHH http://www.choosingvoluntarysimplicity.com/stop-procrastinating-personal-development/#comment-37523 I've found that the reason for my procrastination is that there are just too many things that need to be done. If I get one thing off my list, another ten have already replaced it. Or then someone usually gives me something more to do or asks for something else, this is especially true for my children and work colleagues/bosses. By procrastinating, I at least get a little time for myself. I’ve found that the reason for my procrastination is that there are just too many things that need to be done. If I get one thing off my list, another ten have already replaced it. Or then someone usually gives me something more to do or asks for something else, this is especially true for my children and work colleagues/bosses. By procrastinating, I at least get a little time for myself.

]]> By: Constantine http://www.choosingvoluntarysimplicity.com/how-to-stop-procrastinating/#comment-35705 Constantine http://www.choosingvoluntarysimplicity.com/stop-procrastinating-personal-development/#comment-35705 Always feel angry about doing stuff I feel i dont need to, but think i am getting over it with the help of this post. Always feel angry about doing stuff I feel i dont need to, but think i am getting over it with the help of this post.

]]> By: E http://www.choosingvoluntarysimplicity.com/how-to-stop-procrastinating/#comment-29013 E http://www.choosingvoluntarysimplicity.com/stop-procrastinating-personal-development/#comment-29013 Very good points! I think they are all fitting of me...for me the big one is the perfectionism, if I can't do it right I just won't do it at all! It's irrational I know, but it's part of the cycle. Because I get overwhelmed and know I can't do it ALL or do it all as well as I want it done, so I just put it off and off and off....it's just a vicious cycle (procrastination) I'm trying to get past it but man is it ever harder than it sounds. Very good points! I think they are all fitting of me…for me the big one is the perfectionism, if I can’t do it right I just won’t do it at all! It’s irrational I know, but it’s part of the cycle. Because I get overwhelmed and know I can’t do it ALL or do it all as well as I want it done, so I just put it off and off and off….it’s just a vicious cycle (procrastination) I’m trying to get past it but man is it ever harder than it sounds.

]]> By: Dottie Nauer http://www.choosingvoluntarysimplicity.com/how-to-stop-procrastinating/#comment-8342 Dottie Nauer http://www.choosingvoluntarysimplicity.com/stop-procrastinating-personal-development/#comment-8342 I've done some research on this and perfectionists are often procrastinators, as you mention above. One of the most freeing things in my life was to really think about this aspect whenever I'm procrastinating, because usually I can tell myself this particular job is just not worthy of perfection. Most people won't care if a particular job is not completed perfectly. Try bringing it down a notch to just doing it well. Now you have to pick and choose on this for some projects are truly not worth doing at all if not done perfectly. But most things we put off can be done less than perfectly. Dottie I’ve done some research on this and perfectionists are often procrastinators, as you mention above. One of the most freeing things in my life was to really think about this aspect whenever I’m procrastinating, because usually I can tell myself this particular job is just not worthy of perfection. Most people won’t care if a particular job is not completed perfectly. Try bringing it down a notch to just doing it well. Now you have to pick and choose on this for some projects are truly not worth doing at all if not done perfectly. But most things we put off can be done less than perfectly. Dottie

]]> By: Lloyd http://www.choosingvoluntarysimplicity.com/how-to-stop-procrastinating/#comment-4605 Lloyd http://www.choosingvoluntarysimplicity.com/stop-procrastinating-personal-development/#comment-4605 Well-written and to the point. Procrastinators think they're making their lives easier by avoiding the difficult job, but they're really complicating everything for everyone around them. This is an excellent topic for a site about voluntary simplicity. What could be simpler than doing what needs to be done *when* it needs to be done, before it can get out of control? Anyway, thanks, another good post. Well-written and to the point. Procrastinators think they’re making their lives easier by avoiding the difficult job, but they’re really complicating everything for everyone around them. This is an excellent topic for a site about voluntary simplicity. What could be simpler than doing what needs to be done *when* it needs to be done, before it can get out of control?

Anyway, thanks, another good post.

]]> By: Leah B. http://www.choosingvoluntarysimplicity.com/how-to-stop-procrastinating/#comment-4604 Leah B. http://www.choosingvoluntarysimplicity.com/stop-procrastinating-personal-development/#comment-4604 I was going to wait til tomorrow to post this comment, but -- ;o> Great post that really hit the spot with me. I have a habit of putting off the unpleasant things and then they pile up on me. Your post gave me some fresh resolve to make things better in that area. Great blog too! I'm always looking forward to your next post. I was going to wait til tomorrow to post this comment, but — ;o>

Great post that really hit the spot with me. I have a habit of putting off the unpleasant things and then they pile up on me. Your post gave me some fresh resolve to make things better in that area.

Great blog too! I’m always looking forward to your next post.

]]> By: Living my rich life http://www.choosingvoluntarysimplicity.com/how-to-stop-procrastinating/#comment-4602 Living my rich life http://www.choosingvoluntarysimplicity.com/stop-procrastinating-personal-development/#comment-4602 You have no idea how much I needed this post at the moment. I'm the world's worst procrastinator and it causes me so much stress that was not needed. It is certainly going to be one on my big goals next year to break this terrible habit. You have no idea how much I needed this post at the moment. I’m the world’s worst procrastinator and it causes me so much stress that was not needed. It is certainly going to be one on my big goals next year to break this terrible habit.

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