We had a surprising telephone call today from one of the top managers at the telephone company. She said she had been reviewing our account record and the many notations about our “courtesy and understanding” during this long bout of problems with our phone service. Most people in our situation, she said, would have let their frustrations turn into anger, and she wanted to personally say thank you for our continuing calm and reasonable attitude, even though we are still having to cope with the unresolved problem.

We had no idea that a record was being kept of HOW we complained as well as what we were complaining about… but it is a good thing to be aware of. It does no good to vent your anger on someone who is just answering the phone and passing on information. Most people really do want to be helpful, but they are limited in what they personally are able to do. It always works better to stay calm, politely state your case, and work your way up the “chain of command” until you reach someone who is in a position of power.

Feverfew (Chrysanthemum parthenium)

Many years of dealing with the public have reinforced our personal belief that we should always try to treat other people the way we would like them to treat us. This is a good idea during the good times, when everything is going well… but it’s an even better idea during the rough times, when nothing seems to be going right and we’re feeling frustrated and angry.

It’s very simple, really. Actually, it’s just practicing the Golden Rule.