Change is hard… and big change is REALLY hard. I think that’s why so many people are often resistant to making changes in their lives. They will stay in situations that make them unhappy… continue to work at jobs or in professions they hate. It’s scary to leave your comfort zone… it’s scary to take that first step and face uncertainty and the unknown… it’s almost always easier just to “keep on keeping on.”
I think the reason that change seems so overwhelming to most people is that most changes, like a pebble dropped in a pond, will ripple out to affect other areas of your life. There are just too many consequences to think about… too much to deal with all at once.
It’s exactly the same when you’re facing a big project. It doesn’t even matter what the project is… it’s the size of the project that is so overwhelming. It’s easy to think that there’s no point in starting because you could never finish it anyway.
My husband and I have discovered that for us, the easiest way to instigate a change or tackle a huge project is to just jump in there and take that first step. If we just do SOMETHING we know we can easily deal with… make one small change or do one small part of the project… we have made a start. When we’re done with that, we move on to another small change or another small part of the project… and when that is taken care of, we move on to the next. This is very empowering because we don’t have to worry about making the major change all at once, or finishing the huge project all at once… suddenly both have become an approachable and doable series of smaller steps.
My husband likes to say that this is something he has learned from me… I think it is something we have learned together.
Of course, at some point we will have reached the hardest part, some big step or change that can’t be broken down… maybe even something we’re not quite comfortable with and wish we could avoid. By that time, though, the huge project is well on its way to being finished… the big change isn’t quite so scary… and we have created a momentum that will carry us through to the end.
And remember… since you have already taken that first step… it’s almost always easier just to keep on keeping on!