Why We Chose Voluntary Simplicity: Sometimes There Is No Tomorrow
Ten years ago my husband and I were spending most of our time at work running a business we had created. Financially everything was great… the store we owned and operated was in a wonderful location, it was a spacious, attractive and newly renovated space, and the extra large office meant that our children could always be there with us. To all of us our store was like a home away from home, and the only down side was that we were spending so much time there that we never had any time or energy left for our real home or the other things we felt were more important. As the years went by, we began to realize that we never were going to have that time as long as we had the store. Still, letting go of the store was almost unthinkable because we had worked so hard to get to where we were.
But life doesn’t stand still. One day we received a certified letter notifying us that our very likable, but rather disorganized landlord was being forced to file for bankruptcy and that the entire plaza would be sold at auction. A few anxious weeks later we learned that the new owner intended to completely renovate all the stores and that construction would start immediately. And it did. A crew of carpenters moved throughout the plaza, ripping out walls and changing the location of doors and windows, with the person directing the action often changing his mind in mid-demolition. We discovered that this person had a violent temper and that it was better to keep out of his way. We saw him in horrible rages, sometimes losing control completely and screaming and throwing things at his crew. Seeing and hearing this was often quite unnerving. The demolition went on for weeks and weeks and then suddenly one day before anything was actually finished, we all received notice that the renovation work had now ended and that from that point on we were responsible for any further work that would be done. Also that anyone not liking that arrangement was released from their lease and could leave immediately. Like the others, we stayed because we had so much already invested in that location.
It was now early summer and our busiest time of year, and the only time we could do the renovation work was nights and weekends. We worked, like everyone else, all through the summer months. And then it was early September and most of the stores were finally back to normal. Strangely, the couple who rented the store next to us finished the same day we did, and we spent over an hour that Thursday afternoon commiserating with each other about what a terribly difficult time the last several months had been, and about how we yearned to be able to spend more time at home and have a life again outside of our workplace. I especially remember the woman’s enthusiasm and determination that this very day would be their first step towards a less harried life… they would close their store early, pick up their children at school, and have a relaxed family evening for the first time in months.
That night as I was preparing our dinner with the television news on in the background, I was stunned to hear that this couple had been involved in a horrible accident less than an hour after we had talked. The woman was killed immediately and the man was critically injured. All I could think about was that just a few hours earlier I had been listening to this woman’s plans for a future that now would never happen for them.
For us, the accident was a sad reminder that sometimes there is no tomorrow. It was also the impetus we needed to make our plans and dreams for a less stressful life a reality. It was not an easy decision, and it still took us a few more months to plan out what we were going to do, but slightly over a year after that terrible night, and just days before we would have had to sign another ten year lease, we sold off the last of our merchandise, closed our store, and never looked back. Everyone who knew us thought we had lost our minds, because we are not normally impulsive people, and at the time we made the decision we had no other income. Everyone thought what we were doing was totally out of character for us, and it was, but we both felt strongly that we were doing the right thing. And because we had savings and were completely debt-free… and had paid off our mortgage and car loans and pared down our expenses as much as we could… we had already greatly simplified our life and made this change in lifestyle possible. We have no regrets. A few months after we closed the store, we started working from home, and that work has grown to provide us with a comfortable income. Our life has regained its balance, and our time is our own again. I only wish our friends could have lived to have the same opportunity.
Written by Shirley | Filed Under Personal, Personal Development, Simple Living, Voluntary Simplicity


Comments
Comment by Heather:
Boy, a friend sent me the link to this article and it couldn’t have come at a better time. I believe that God is telling my family something (through me reading this article) and we need to listen. Thank you for being so honest and open.
Comment by Shirley:
Thank you, Heather, for the kind comment. I’m glad that this article touched you, and I hope you will let me know how things work out for you. Best wishes and prayers…
Comment by Scott T:
I think this post reflects what a lot of folks think, when the get a moment to reflect. We all live such harried lives, it is difficult to step outside of that and evaluate your priorities.
I’ve stumbled across this blog twice now and really like it. I spent some time reading about your hosta’s, being a slight hosta addict myself.
Keep up the good work.
Scott
Comment by Doug Rosbury:
Congratulations, Good thinking always works to make life work. But only thoughtful, kindly people know how to think well. That’s because they have humility and a lack of fear and most of all, faith. I enjoyed your example and your story, thanks a lot.—Doug Rosbury
Comment by Doug Rosbury:
My own philosophy is “voluntary simplicity” and boy does it work out well for me.
Doug
Comment by Jack:
I found this post very relevant to my own experience at the moment. I’ve recently embarked on a similar journey and I am glad to see I am not alone. Happiness is the freedom to enjoy your life on your own time, on your own terms with the people you love. It is the material that keeps a person from genuine freedom.
Good luck and take care!
J
Comment by Elanor:
it’s a powerful lesson to learn. When I was young, three of my friends died before we even turned 21. One left a baby behind. My husband and I decided that we would try our best to enjoy each day and not get up chasing money. We are still together 26 years later, and I still think of those friends often. I really enjoy your blog, you help to keep me inspired to stay the course I have set!
Comment by Joy:
thanks for sharing your experience! So sad to hear about your friends but a great reminder that we have this day to live and we know not much beyond that. Simplicity is freedom. I am working towards that with my family too.
Comment by Erin:
Thanks for reminding me of something I already knew…my fiance died when I was 24 and for years his death served to remind me that there were no guarantees…I’ve letting myself forget that and my husband and I are on the debt merry-go-round…paid off, in debt, paid off, in debt…for the last time…as Jack posted, the material has NOT provided genuine freedom and we’ve grown up enough to recognize this…
Comment by Mara:
My father and his wife were planning great things for their retirement when she was killed in a car crash…a colleague had a couple of months to go before she retired when her and her husband were going to New Zealand but her husband had a stroke…these and your story really emphasise to me the necessity to do what you can when you can because you never know what the future will bring.
Mara
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